You could get into an argument with someone about your divergent goals today. But things are not as they sound in the heat of the moment. If you both try to prove the other person wrong, the conflict will escalate because there won't be a clear winner. However, if you each take a few deep breaths and actually listen to what is being said, you might realize the differences are not as great as they seemed. In fact, it's the lack of clarity that creates the gulf now, not the specifics. Find common ground and work from there without trying to sway the final outcome.